Many brides are being forced to scale back their wedding plans due to financial considerations. The news is full of stories of people losing homes and jobs and cutting back on gas-guzzling cars, but it’s not talking about the couples who suddenly have less money available for wedding planning than their older siblings and friends had for theirs. With the right perspective, couples in these circumstances can look on the small wedding as a blessing rather than a straight jacket.
Cutting back on the elaborate stylings of grand weddings means that couples can focus on the real purpose of a wedding — celebrating the nuptials of two people in love. Finding ways to save money can provide an excellent excuse to involve family and friends in the wedding planning and execution — people who would have otherwise just been guests can instead share in the journey from engagement to wedding. Family members may have mad skills such as flower designing, cooking, decorating, or even the ability to alter a used wedding dress into a custom-fitted gown. This turns a wedding into a community experience instead of a spectator event.
Being forced to limit the size of the wedding has the added benefit of ensuring that the people invited are people who are truly important to the bride and groom. Instead of having to invite Dad’s business contacts or distant cousins that no one remembers, it will be a gathering of close friends and family who are intimately connected with the couple and genuinely care about supporting them in building a life together. That’s a much better atmosphere for starting off a marriage than the attention of barely interested strangers.
